re: "Show Me A Doctor's Note Or Be Prepared To Pay," The Bachelor Pad, January 11, 2005

So - I read this column in the January 30 Sunday "Olympian".  I couldn't believe what an egotistical jerk this guy was!  So, any woman who gets sick or whatever should pay him for a cancelled date.  Get a grip!  And perhaps, Mr. Katz, you should look inward for the problem here.  I personally think you are a class-A jerk.  Thankfully, I am old enough to not need to date the likes of you, but would think my daughter wise if she got smart and changed her mind about going even to the corner store for Imodium with you!

re: "Life On The D-List Was A Dose Of Reality," Gender Lines, April 12, 2007

I'm a huge fan of your column and disappointed to read today that it will be ending next week. I came across it a few years ago and have looked forward to it every week since then. I remember your first mention of Deb in the infamous "Can you be friends with a woman you kinda' want to see naked?" and have enjoyed being a fly on the wall through your courtship.

 

Best of luck to you in your career. I hope to see your columns published in a book one day as a reference to what dating was like In the Philly metro area in the early 21st century. Best wishes to you and Deb on your marriage as well.

 

 

re: "Men Are Obsolete," Gender Lines, Dec. 28, 2006

Dear Mr. Katz (or should I say Ms. Katz)-
 
Your comments with regard to men screwing up the world and the end of their existence have to be the most idiotic and sickening things I have ever heard. Your remarks are so absurd that I hardly know where to begin. I'll simplify it by saying that you are not only staggeringly ignorant but you're also a poor excuse for a man, cowering to the politically "correct" feminist radicals whose only interest is in promoting their own agenda, not making the world a better place for everyone. 

Thanks a lot for making your own gender's work more difficult in its fight against this moronic and temporary trend of male-bashing. If you actually observe the facts, history has proved you wrong and will continue to do so indefinitely. Your position is a disgrace of epic proportions.

re: "Pretty In Pink," Gender Lines, Sept. 14, 2005

This is a long overdue letter to tell you how much I love your articles in the Courier-Post. Your articles are funny, insightful, honest, heart-wrenching, poignant -- I could go on and on. I have a twenty-three year old son who is going through so much of what you describe in your articles. I am often torn between tears and laughter, remembering just how damn difficult it is to be young, single, broke and trying to "get a life" out in the world.

Hang in there -- you're are a great catch for some lucky someone! I just hope you still continue to write those wonderful articles.

re: "Life In His Bachelor Pad Is Actually The Pits," The Bachelor Pad, June 28, 2005

Your article in our paper (Las Cruces (NM) Sun-News) on July 22 was interesting.  One thing that bothered me -- you denied eating olives to your landlord?  Even though you do? So you lied.

Many of your articles are about dating, and if I were a woman, I would stay miles away from anyone who lies like this.  It might be a small thing, but people who have no qualms lying about little things often lie about bigger things too.  I once knew a guy who would lie if you asked him what time it was.

Truth and honesty...

re: The Bachelor Pad

First Email:

This is getting painful to read. From one Matt to another: Just stop it. Please.

Second Email:
Look, I don't want to be too judgmental here -- hell, I can even sympathize with the "just friends" column -- but your piece is "The Bachelor Pad" not "The Bookish Loser Pad." In the past few weeks you've written about your experiences at a gay gym, with Internet Russian brides and with a date who you made pay for everything.

Maybe I'm out of line here, but when I pick up a syndicated dating column, I expect to read about a guy who goes on "dates" with "women" and tells what works, what doesn't, etc...

Am I way off the mark, or have I been duped by some chic, Vice Party hyper-irony?

re: The Bachelor Pad

There's a Matt Katz character that writes a column every Tuesday in the Courier Post. He smirks in his picture, his eyes are charming -- telling but hiding simultaneously -- and his written voice has a youthful, sarcastic life that lets us become voyeurs in his dating journey to find "the one".

But who is Matt Katz? How old are you, what do you aspire to be, where is this voice coming from?

...I read because you're modest, and understated. You have a candor and charm that is really rare in men (and column writers too!) and your attention to the 'sweaty palms' and 'meeting dads' part of dating makes me smile, especially when I picture someone actually saying your words out loud. You write as though you were speaking to us.

...Enjoy your New Year, and I'll be reading for as long as you're writing. You've got another fan to contend with.
 
NOTE: Bizarrely, I wrote a long email back to this reader and never heard back from her.

re: "Intrepid 'Scientists' Begin Getting Women's Numbers," The Bachelor Pad, May 11, 2004

 
Ok Matt, I can not keep my mouth shut any longer.  I might just be the biggest non-feminist in the tri state area and yet, I'm insulted by the column you wrote today.

 

You're young....a little naive at times...but it's usually all in good fun.  Today's column was different.  You can not make a statement claiming that women who live with their boyfriends will give out  their number in a bar.  This is just BAD BAD BAD. 

 

One woman, who perhaps found you attractive, or perhaps had had it with her live-in, gave you her number.  This doesn't mean that all of us would.  Get a clue. You'd better watch it.  If I was able to spot you over my stack of pancakes that means you are somewhat recognizable to us girls who read the Courier Post.  If you want to keep on dating, treat us as individuals.  Don't lump us together in one big category, OK?  We hate that.

 

Please keep screwing up your dates so I can keep chuckling.   

re: "New Column, Different Attitude, Same Dude," The Bachelor Pad, June 22, 2006

Not that you need my approval, understanding, or even admiration, but Gender Lines seems like a perfect transition for you. Everyone grows personally and in relationships. Therefore, we always have a need to re-invent, re-package, or re-generate ourselves in some new and, in most cases, improved way.

Gender renders us defenseless at times. It is a bender of the heart. It smacks us right in the fender. Then it sends us on a quest for some other lender who we hope can be our mender. I know this line of verbage is heading out yender (OK, I know it is yonder, but it didn't rhyme).

Anyway, congratulations on shedding your skin and reaching the next level of communicator.

re: Gender Lines

I just wanted to let you know that your column is the one I most look forward to reading in my local paper every week. I love your views and opinions on relationships, sex, women, and men. They are hilarious, yet they ring true. So, I just wanted to say thanks for writing a great column!
Neisha

          re: Gender Lines

I have to send you an email to tell you how much I enjoy reading and laughing over your column. I have been following it recently and the two funniest I found so far, were todays 'Language expands to explain gender-based hostility' and the one about your two female friends doing an online dating experiment. Very funny stuff. I always am looked at oddly when reading your column, since I usually end up laughing out loud at your work.

 

The online one, the funniest I thought was when the man arrived and the ladies had asked him why he came, he'd said that his curiosity got the best of him and he just had to know what the person was all about...I figure he had a clear idea about what he might find...it was funny.

 

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Matt. I look forward to more!

re: "Men Are Obsolete," Gender Lines, Dec. 28, 2006

Your stupidity stuns me.   

re: "Mrs. President? Women are 0-43," Gender Lines, July 13, 2006

YO MAN,

               GOT DONE READING YOUR ARTICLE MRS. PRESIDENT. DUDE THERE ARE PLENTY OF FEMINIST NAZI WRITER LIKE MOLLY IVANS OR ELLEN GOODMEN WAVING THE FEMALE FLAG OF INEQUALITY, WE DON'T NEED ANOTHER GUY  TAKING UP THE CAUSE FOR WOMEN. TALK ABOUT THE INEQUALITY IN THE COURTS, HOW MEN GET SLAMMED, HOW THEY AUTOMATICALLY LOOSE THERE KIDS, HOW A WIFE DOES NOTHING, BUT STILL TAKES HALF OF HIS BUSINESS. WRITE ABOUT HOW A WOMEN CAN HAVE AN ABORTION WITHOUT THE GUYS OK, BUT IF THE GUY DOES NOT WANT THE KID AND THE WOMEN DOES AND SHE HAS IT, HE HAS TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT FOR 18 YEARS. START WRITING LIKE A MAN AND TAKE THE DRESS OFF.

 

 TAKE YOUR SURVEYS AT THE CONSTRUCTION SITES AT THE STEEL PLANTS, DOWN ON THE DOCKS NOT IN A CORPORATE SETTING WHERE GUYS ARE TRAINED TO GIVE THE POLITICLY CORRECT ANSWERS.  BY THE WAY I TOOK A POLL OF 15 COWORKERS AND THEY WOULD RATHER HAVE HITLER IN OFFICE THEN HILLARY. PUT THAT IN YOUR NEXT ARTICLE!

re: The Bachelor Pad

Dear Mr. Katz 

I am an avid fan of your work. I am always shifting through newspapers at my school in hope to find yet another masterpiece of your work. I am no great English student but your style of writing stole my heart the first day I read an article of yours. You truly inspire me.

 

-Andrew 

age: 16

re: "Wanted: Couple Friends," Gender Lines, Oct. 12, 2006

I have to tell you that I absolutely loved your article on 10/12 about couple searching for another couple to be friends with. It hit home and it is so very true for many 20 somethings in south jersey and around the country. My boyfriend and I have been searching for couple friends that don't already have kids and/or other complications. If you have any tips that other readers might share with you, please pass them on as we are also searching for couple friends. Also, if you ever want to "double date" (your dreaded word), please feel free to drop me an email and maybe we all could hang out and get our own table for 4.

 

Keep up the great columns, you always speak the truth and I am one of many who enjoys reading your column on Thursdays.

re: Gender Lines

I really enjoy your column--have been reading it for quite a while now. I just got married again, and for me, the third time's the charm. I don't admit to being married 3 times to very many people, in fact I onlyjust confessed to the extra marriage to my fiancé when I realized that it was going to be on the marriage license. (Of course he knew about the second marriage, since it produced 3 children.) He thought it was funny that I wasso worried, and completely overlooked it. Guess he trusts me. What a guy! Happy writing. It's refreshing reading what guys think.